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"Breaking Up is Hard to Do, but Healing is Possible: Insights from a Relationship Expert"

Updated: Apr 16, 2023

Hi there! I'm Steve Pilot, certified relationship coach and personal trainer extraordinaire.

And today, I'm here to talk to you about something we've all experienced: the heartbreak of a breakup.

As an expert in the field, I've seen it all - the good, the bad, and the downright ugly.

But fear not, my friends, because I'm here to help you heal emotionally and move on from your breakup with grace and ease.

So, grab a snack, kick back, and get ready to laugh (and maybe cry a little, but mostly laugh) as we delve into the world of post-breakup healing.

Breakup? More like BreakUP - Let's Get Moving!

First things first, let's talk about the importance of physical activity in the healing process.

Now, I know what you're thinking - "Steve, I can barely get out of bed, how am I supposed to work out?"

But trust me, friends, even a little bit of movement can do wonders for your mood.

As a personal trainer, I've seen firsthand the transformative power of exercise.

Not only does it release endorphins (the happy hormones), but it also helps to alleviate stress and anxiety - two things that are probably running rampant in your post-breakup brain.

So, start small. Go for a walk around the block, do some gentle yoga, or even just dance around your living room like a crazy person (no judgment here).

The point is to get your body moving and your blood flowing - it'll do wonders for your mental state.

Let's Talk About Feelings (Yes, I Went There)

Okay, I know this one is a toughie.

But hear me out - in order to heal emotionally after a breakup, you've got to be willing to acknowledge and process your feelings.

I know, I know, it's so much easier to just shove those emotions deep down and pretend they don't exist.

But the truth is, those feelings are going to come out eventually, and it's better to deal with them head-on rather than let them fester.

So, grab a journal (or a trusted friend), and start writing down how you're feeling.

Allow yourself to be vulnerable and honest - this is a judgment-free zone.

And if you need to cry, go ahead and cry. Let it out, baby.

Bye-Bye, Ex! Cutting Off Contact (Without Being a Jerk)

Now, this one is a toughie, but it's crucial for your emotional healing.

It's time to cut off contact with your ex-partner. Yes, even if you're still friends.

I know it's tempting to keep that person in your life, to see what they're up to, and check in on them from time to time.

But trust me, this is only going to prolong your healing process.

So, how do you cut off contact without being a jerk?

First, be honest with your ex-partner. Let them know that you need space and time to heal and that you won't be in contact for a while.

And then, stick to it.

Delete them from social media, resist the urge to text or call, and focus on your own healing.

It may be tough at first, but trust me, it'll be worth it in the long run.

Lean on Me - Building Your Support System

Last but certainly not least, it's time to lean on your support system.

This is where friends, family, and maybe even a therapist come in handy.

Don't be afraid to reach out and ask for help.

Your loved ones want to support you through this tough time, so let them.

Your support system can be a lifeline in those dark post-breakup days.

They can offer a listening ear, a shoulder to cry on, and maybe even a good laugh to lift your spirits.

But if you're struggling to reach out, here are a few tips.

First, be specific about what you need.

Do you need someone to vent to or someone to distract you with a fun activity?

Let your loved ones know exactly how they can support you.

Second, don't be afraid to ask for help from professionals.

A therapist can offer a safe and confidential space to process your emotions, and a relationship coach (like yours truly) can help you navigate the tricky waters of post-breakup healing.

And finally, remember that healing is a process.

It won't happen overnight, and there may be some setbacks along the way.

But with the right tools and support, you can and will heal from your breakup.

Gentlemen, remember that you're not alone in your post-breakup journey.

Take care of your physical and emotional health, cut off contact with your ex-partner (sorry, not sorry), and lean on your support system.

And if all else fails, dance around your living room like a crazy person - trust me, it works.

It's also important to remember that everyone's healing process looks different.

What works for one person may not work for another, and that's okay.

The key is to listen to your own needs and give yourself grace and compassion along the way.

And if you find yourself struggling with negative self-talk or self-blame, it's important to challenge those thoughts.

Breakups are rarely the fault of one person, and it's not productive to beat yourself up over what went wrong.

Instead, focus on what you can learn from the experience and how you can grow from it.

Another helpful tip is to focus on self-care.

Take a long bath, treat yourself to a nice meal, or indulge in a favorite hobby.

These little acts of kindness towards yourself can go a long way in boosting your mood and helping you feel more grounded.

Lastly, don't be afraid to create new goals or aspirations for yourself.

This can be a great way to channel your energy and focus on something positive during a difficult time.

Maybe you want to train for a marathon, learn a new skill, or travel to a new place.

Whatever it is, having something to work towards can be incredibly empowering and help you move forward.

Healing from a breakup is never easy, but it is possible.

Take care of your physical and emotional health, lean on your support system, challenge negative self-talk, focus on self-care, and create new goals for yourself.

Remember, you're not alone in this journey, and with time and effort, you will come out stronger and wiser on the other side.

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